Finding a Parenting Style

I've heard that finding your parenting style is one of the most important things that you can do for your child. I have heard this from child development professors, other parents, and even concerned citizens at the grocery store (yes you have to love this). Michael is almost three months old (okay 2.5 months) and I dont think we have found "our" style. To be quite honest with you, I am not that worried about it at this point. I hear you cant spoil a little baby, and trust me, despite how big he might look, Mikey is still a pretty little guy. So we have been trying some things, granted trying out parenting techniques on a 10 week old is a bit different than on a 10 year old, but being as how he is the oldest and really the "experimental child" (I am the oldest/experimental child I feel his pain...) we might as well start early. So far we have found that "attachement parenting" isnt for our family- Mikey just is not a fan. Crying is out doesnt work for us either... yes we tried it. We let Mikey dictate some of the schedule, for example when he eats, and that bedtime falls between 7:30 and 7:45 (he gets tired at this time so we start getting ready for bed), but we still try (sometimes hopelessly) to have a normal schedule. Right now we fall somewhere in the middle of the two extreme parenting styles. Somewhere where it is okay for Mikey to upset (sometimes) and where his needs are met, where we have a rough schedule, and where he is given his own space (or bed), but still is held, played with, and cuddled quite a bit, for now this works... granted as harder decisions need to be made we may need to adjust, but for now the experiment is working.