I have been told by several people that "I hate children", instead of kicking these people I think I need to clarify this. I do NOT hate children, in fact I quite like them, but I am not baby crazy. I dont need to hold every baby in Relief Society, and I dont love babysitting. If I dont have a connection to the child/baby (relationship with their parents) I am just not that interested in cuddling them, I dont know why this is, but it is true, it isnt that those kids arent cute, I just dont need to hold them. With that being said I quite like friend's children and neices and nephews. I am fine changing diapers (dont love it but really who does), love to read stories, play barbies, color, and even plan soccer with a tennis ball. I love to sing the ABC song, dress up for halloween, and listen to knock knock jokes, but I have to have a connection with the child. So this brings me to a question, well really to several questions, first, why do people insist you hold babies when are you married and dont have children? Not having children doesnt mean I dont like children, it just means that I dont have any, trust me holding a random baby isnt going to cause me to catch baby fever. Why is this not okay? I am not an especially mean person, I will eventually have children, but why does not having any children right now mean anything besides that I dont have any?
My favorite people are the ones that tell me I hate children, and that because of this I am going to be a bad mother, way to go not judging. Besides the insanity of that statement, I have to wonder, why people think this? I not so secretly want to tell these people to shove it... arent you all glad I hold my tongue (sometimes).
So to the world, I do not hate children, I like them, I even like to hold some of them (Annie, Derek, Caleb). My children will not be unloved, life will go on if I dont hold one baby a week.
* I am so sorry if this post offended anyone, I promise I do like children!
3 comments:
You are so funny. I think some people naturally enjoy all things young (babies, toddlers, children), regardless of who they are. Others, find joy in only the youth they know well. Either way, it's okay.
Don't lose sleep over those who tell you that you must hate children. They are speaking without thinking and are incapable of thinking outside the perspective of the realm of their own experience.
You've always shown love to my baby and that's all that matters to me.
Good for you for saying what lots of other mothers-to-be would like to say.
I don't really like kids that I don't have a connection to either. Though now that I have my own baby I do see the goodness and cuteness in all babies. But older kids--uck. I'm sorry people are so judgmental. You really should tell them to shove it! Having a baby is one of the biggest life decisions you'll ever make, and I don't see any problem with taking your time. Which reminds me.. Kyle wants to seriously think about (ME!) getting pregnant in the next 6-12 months.. My opinion: Maybe in a few years I'll start thinking about it!!
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