My Reasons

People sometimes ask how Brian and I met, if it was love at first sight, and why I decided to marry him. Sadly, I cannot answer that it was love at first sight, if you read this blog then you have met us, and you know that we aren’t the mushy lovey dovey couple, love or even like at first sight would not have worked for us.  Anyway, as I listen to people list the reasons why they decided to marry their spouse, or reasons why they love their spouse (can I just say I HATE the word spouse), it makes me laugh that when I decided to marry Brian, and when I list the reasons I love him (yes I did just say love) the reasons don’t match (it’s like I am a pod person). I didn’t marry Brian because he was oh so dreamy and romantic (sorry Bri). I didn’t marry him because I thought we would ride off into the sunset and that life would be great, I didn’t marry him because I thought my life would be easy because we were together, I didn’t marry him because I thought that he would give me everything I ever wanted.  I know that most people get married for more substantial reasons than these, but I am just listing some from chick flicks.  I married him because he was/is smart, he loves to learn, to be informed (and inform those around him) and be successful at everything he does, I married him because he is geeky (yes Bri you are) I married him because he pushes me to be better, step outside my comfort zone, and achieve what he knows I am capable of. I married him because “settling for second best” is not an option in his vocabulary, I married him because he makes me laugh, because he has a plan for his life,  and knows how to achieve it. I married him because with Brian there are few surprises (I hate surprises), we have contingency plans for our contingency plans, he is persistent,  I married him because I have this obsessive need to know what is going to happen next, and he has an obsessive need to plan ahead. I married him because he is an all or nothing person, if he decides to go ahead with something he gives it his all, I married him because I knew that our family would always be his number one priority. I married him because I knew that I wouldn’t ever be dragging him along, I knew that we would be equal partners. I married him because he is patient (most of the time), and I am not, I married him because he didn’t try and change me into someone else. He was good fit, I knew we would be a good team, I knew we would be better people because we were together. So there you have it, that is why i married Brian, and why I am grateful every day that I made that choice.