Marriage is a piece of cake...

I heard that marriage is a piece of cake, I am not sure what kind of cake, maybe a urinal cake, but still a piece of cake. Dont misunderstand, I love being married and really wouldn't change anything about my situation (well I would get a dishwasher, and a washer and dryer, but beyond that nothing), but despite my happiness with the situation I am not disillusioned to believe that marriage is easy. Really think about it, there are two people working together on a limited budget (well maybe your's is unlimited), living in a confined space, working together on shared goals, while at the same time going out into the world and functioning as contributing members of society. When I hear that marriage is easy it makes my blood boil (I am generally chilly so it takes a lot), the people that say that must not have ever been married. Really I know it sounds like I am whining about Brian, but I am just being realistic about the situation, working with another person is never easy. I have to admit when Brian and I got married I was a young naive 20 year old bride (I am sure my dad is nodding his head as he reads this), I had no idea what it took to be a wife. I went into it thinking that every day would be happy and light hearted, and in all reality we have had quite a few of those days, but we have also had the other type of days, the ones where things go horribly wrong, where your carefully laid plans crumble at your feet, and those days where you think if one more thing goes wrong, or if your spouse continues to chew with his/her mouth open you might slap them across the face. I think we all have these days, and not because we don't love our spouse but because you are both human, and with that comes human failings and flaws. So moral of the blog post? marriage is hard, not as hard say as learning to drive a manual transmission on 35E during rush hour, but still more difficult than most other endeavors.