NPR in the morning...

This morning as I was driving to work I heard and essay on NPR about modern feminism. The author asserted that modern feminists should reject "antiquated" traditions in an effort to elevate the status of women. The "antiquated" tradition she chose to focus on what the tradition of women adopting their husband's surname after marriage. The author asserted that those of us that have chosen to drop our maiden names have somehow lost a part of ourselves, and have placed ourselves in the role of the "lesser partner". I will admit that when I first chose to change my name I did feel like I was missing something- there was something about changing my name that caused and identity crisis of sorts (for several minutes). In my case changing my name was part of the transformation from single life to married life, what I felt I was missing was my life as a single person. I didnt drop my maiden name when I got married. I decided that there was too much history, culture, and identity to lose it all together, instead I just tacked on another name. I dont go by two last names, i just go by Brian's, and I dont feel like on any level that makes me less of a capable person or equal partner. I dont think my children will be tramautized because their parents have the same last name, i dont think my coworkers think less of me because I choose not to use my maiden name. I dont think going by my married name had inhibited my academic or professional prospects. I think changing your name is a personal preference and should be treated as such. I am appalled by women who push their personal view of feminism on others, claiming that those that embrace a more conservative view are treated as second class citizens. Please leave me alone, I am a capable person despite my name change!