Thursday, June 4, 2009
He's Just Not That Into You.. a little uncertain
We rented the movie "He's just not that into you", I have to say the movie left me a bit confused. One of the film's stars, Scarlett Johanssen, makes me want to vomit, her voice is annoying, she acts like an idiot, and in this case her character had a relationship with a married man. Besides all of the irritating parts of the movie (Drew Barrymore, Scarlett Johanssen, extramarital affairs, etc) the movie seemed like a self help book for women- not the best self help book. Dont get me wrong I will be the first to admit I have waited by the phone hoping Mr. Wonderful would call, checked my email 20 times a day hoping that when he said he'd email he actually would, and pestered friends about what they thought my chances with Mr. Right were. Thank goodness those days are behind me, watching the movie made it all come flooding back, and made me question, why do we do this to ourselves? The girls in the movie (besides the trashy one) were portrayed as smart, successful, and beautiful, but still they tripped over themselves to please the guy- most of the guys were not attractive, successful, or intelligent. By the end of the movie the female characters "reclaim" their true selves and come into their own, they are assertive, in charge, and aware of insane situation they have put themselves in, but this made me wonder how many girls dont have that aha moment. It also made me think back to the various "Mr. Right" candidates I have known in my time, one in particular stands out- and every time I think about it I cringe, why did I trip over myself thinking he would someday turn around and think, yes that girl that let me borrow a pencil she is the one. Was it because I had seen one too many sappy movies, listened to one too many country love songs, or was just simply because I am female? I'd like to think it was because I was young and dumb, but the rational part of my brain tends to think that if I hadnt met and married Brian it is likely that I would still be tripping over myself for Mr. Okay for Right Now. But why do we do this? Are we conditioned to be naive and trusting? Do we just want something so bad we delude ourselves into thinking unlikely the will become come to past if we wish it hard enough, or do we just hope for the best in people? I obviously dont have the answer to that question- if I did I would be rich. So the take away message- if he doesnt act interested then he probably isnt, move on to the next one, and there is someone that is interested, maybe he isnt the one you hoped or even thought would be but life is full of surprises.
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I absolutely loath that movie! I thought it was going to be cute and funny...but low and behold it was actually somewhat offensive, boring and a sad waste of time. Between the messages that it's okay to have affairs, be gay, live together and never get married etc. there's also the fact that the friendships are undefined and the story line of each character was so lacking they had to put what seemed like countless people in to take up time. It down right sucked.
But to answer your question...girls do it A) because we're generally romantics and optimistically so B) because we want to see the best in people and C) because if we weren't like that and didn't nudge boys to be timely, honest, and productive in romantic settings we'd never get married and have families. :-)
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